Try to give your boyfriend some space to cool off first before attempting to talk things out with him and explain your side of the situation since he may be more likely to listen to you then.

Hey,i cheated on my boyfriend on January and he found out last week. he wants to break up with me but o don’t want to let that happen. i kissed my old crush at a party and apparently they knew each other. my boyfriend has been talking to me ever since he tried to break up with me and i don’t want to give him space because i m afraid that he will learn to leave without me and we would never get back together

Without giving him space, it’s very unlikely that he’ll be able to fully forgive you and let go of what happened even if he says he does, since seeing you each time is going to simply remind him of your actions as long as he hasn’t had the space to process his emotions properly.

I have apologised to her told her I love her

I cheated (not really badly. Nothing physical with anyone. Technically she broke up, and was very angry, but still lives with me. I’ve quit drinking, and started going to counseling and Kolla in got us couples counseling which we’ve gone to one appointment so far. She’s very distant, and hasn’t made a decision on whether or not she’s staying. How long should I wait for this? At some point, I have been punished enough. This was a minor thing, and it’s been over a month. I’m tired of living in limbo, but I do love her.

Unfortunately, it isn’t your call to make regarding when she should be forgiving you and how serious your mistake was. It’s dependent on your partner, and if you genuinely want to win her back again, you’re going to have to either be patient in making it up to her regardless of how long it takes or let go. If you end up somewhere in between, there’s a good chance of you taking small steps forward but then pushing her away because you get impatient.

She’s cold and distant though, and I don’t want to end up being in an emotionless relationship

I was dating this girl for 2 weeks, we really connected and it was going to go a long way until I met my ex at a party where she told me she still has feelings for me which led to kissing her. I immediately told my girlfriend about this which led to us breaking up. And we took a break from contacting each other, but now we’re back to talking to each other through texts. I know she misses me and she still likes me but her self esteem and pride isn’t letting her give me a chance, I really want her back. Idk what to do anymore..

Give her some time and take things slow. You only dated her for 2 weeks so you may have to be prepared to let her go, especially if she wasn’t too invested with things and decides to move on.

Well, what you have to understand here is that you didn’t do anything wrong because technically you were no longer together with your ex at that point and it wasn’t her business who you spoke to. On top of that, she did cross boundaries by acting stalkerish and going into your IG account to read your conversations. You should stop apologizing because each time you do so further amplifies the wrong message that you were indeed in the wrong. I would recommend proceeding with caution and certainty if this is really what you want, and perhaps give her more space for now to cool off.