I warn them to avoid friendships of the opposite sex because that’s where most affairs begin For him, it was the challenge that gave him a great sense of accomplishment once the relationship was consummated But when some of these people had their first affair, they did not know about the . As a result, they yielded to yet another temptation. Their betrayed spouses were often given misguided information about forgiveness, trust, and unconditional love that failed to emphasize the necessity of conditions that would guard their unfaithful spouses’ Love Bank from outside threats When these people see our program for the first time, they understand the mistakes they made in trying to recover from their past affairs.