You have three options: (1) leave now; (2) give it some time; (3) stay no matter what Your spouse needs to work alone on his/her own changes, so you need to move deliberately away from your relationship, whether that means separation or divorce Is there an obvious shift toward honesty, or are there still cover-ups and lies? Does their confession include information you did not know, or only admitting to what you found out? Does your spouse show genuine remorse for the behavior, or just sorry for getting caught? Does your spouse accept full responsibility, or make excuses? When confronted with your pain, does your spouse respond with empathy, or defensiveness? Is your spouse willing to do the work of repairing trust, or are you expected to just get over it? Does your spouse have insight into their affair behavior, or do they just call it a big mistake? I want to be clear about one thing: if you have been betrayed by your spouse, you have every right to exit your marriage. When trust has been so profoundly broken. when vows have been so deeply violated. nobody should tell you that you are obligated to give your spouse another […]